Happy Life on Earth as in Heaven – Hidup Bahagia di Bumi seperti di Surga

You might possibly know how jokes can complement your speech. But jokes can also cause your speech to be disastrous. Jokes are both a boon and bane to a speech.

If you are very much in comfort with it, use humor. Just check it first if it fits, serving as a breaker between sections or emphasizing a certain point. A funny and great line, or a comment that is irreverent can help liven up the presentation that you have and will help people to remember the things you have said. Of course any joke must be related to the topic that you have in some way. If you are not sure about something, you could also use a humorous photo or cartoon (with the permission of the photographer or illustrator, of course) in your slides.

Aside from making jokes or humor in your speech, you could improve your public speaking with these other tips.

- You should be able to grab your listeners’ attention even right at the start. That is why it is important that you start correct – confident posture, eloquent speaking style, controlled voice tonality and impact, and a nice, well-thought speech from you.

- The information in your message should be organized clearly and logically, making it easy for your listeners to follow what you are trying to say. Keep things easy and simple. Divide the information into smaller blocks and work from there. Highlight the points that you want your audience to remember.

- Your most crucial point should be the conclusion, bringing the speech to a close. The conclusion sets the tone of the speech, and lets the listeners think about and ponder on the things you have just said. Literary devices, such as quotes, stories, rhetorical questions, or surprising facts, can be used for concluding a speech, although of course, these devices should relate well to the topic of your speech.

- Deliver the conclusion that you have clearly and slowly. Keep eye contact with your listeners as you speak. Smile at them, thanking them for the time that they have given you.

- You should remember all these tips and in due time, you would be surprised to see how these techniques have helped you in your future speaking presentations. Your listeners will eventually understand the information you have given them and respect you for your ability in delivering that information.

I feel a loss when pragmatism wins over the mystical. There is a greater magic at work when you engage with Source. I believe that strength and optimism combined with hard work will keep marketing principles and other learned strategies working well for success. I have a much different story to tell.

I’ve spent many years in the corporate world and in the service and sales industry. Letting those learned and hard-work principles go to engage in a relationship with the divine has been one of the most difficult challenges I’ve ever faced. So why face it? Why not stick with the old ways?

Simply put, the mystical, the divine, the source energy, or God if you like, wouldn’t let me go. No matter how hard I worked, I simply did not see the results I desired. There was a transformation already underway and I would be embracing a new way of living. You cannot deny who you truly are. As I moved away from working hard and focused more and more on my gifts, passion & purpose, magical things began happening.

In spite of all my marketing and business focused activities, none of my prospects had become a client and none of my projects came to life. Strangely, people from across North America were finding me, and rarely through my website. As long as I engaged in a relationship with the source and exercised faith, clients began showing up. Clients that were looking for the gifts that I had to offer and the connection I had to share.

This has pushed me deeper into a relationship with the mystical, the metaphysical, the spiritual – so many words to describe the same thing – and practicing a new way of being in this world. It is much simpler, much more organic, much more peaceful, and in many respects, very easy. Well, easy when I get out of my way.

There have been times when I’ve been in a complete and utter panic over what was not materializing. I’d come close to reverting to an old pattern and headaches would show up and more resistance in mind, body, and spirit. Within 24-48 hours, I’d back off from my worries, unable to give-in and give up the dream. I’d trust and just as suddenly, abundance again made itself known.

I see this pattern, these ups & downs, as part of the training I am receiving. To deepen my relationship with the divine. To trust source. To trust my true calling, passion and purpose. To express more fully who I am and thereby be a much better guide and teacher to those who wish to engage in the same relationship with the source of creation.

Magic lives everywhere. Being pragmatic can work, but who wants to work?

Miracles are your responsibility! What does that mean? Simple…You have a responsibility to create miracles in your own life. The responsibility lies on your shoulders. You can’t blame anyone else, and you can’t look outside of yourself for someone else to create the miracles for you. In this article, I’m going to break down the word “Miracle”, because each of you have a responsibility. As you know, my Why is to impact others and change the world one heart at a time. As you read this today, my goal is for you to take responsibility and realize that you have the innate ability to create miracles. So let’s get started!

The letter “M” means Momentum, which is created by you. You must create Momentum in your life for yourself, for your Why, for your family, for your success, for your finances, for your health…YOU create Momentum! No one else will do it for you. You aren’t a surfer waiting for the next wave to come in. You and only you must create your own Momentum to drive you toward creating your Miracle!

The letter “I” stands for Incentive. You must have something inciting you to action…your ultimate “Why”. Why are you doing what you are doing? Why do you want to begin that business? An Incentive builds the foundation that keeps you focused on your Miracle. No doubt about it! But again, it is your responsibility to determine what your incentive is and how it will drive you toward your Miracle.

The letter “R” stands for Revelation. As you read this today, get a Revelation! It’s your responsibility…no one else’s. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you came from, how much money you have…get a Revelation. YOU can and will create Miracles!

The letter “A” stands for Action. I know you’ve heard this before, but read this today, print it out and decide that you are going to take Action to create Miracles. Once again, no one will do it for you! Take the Action that you know that you need to take to create your Miracle.

The letter “C” stands for Commitment. Finally…once and for all…dive right into it…get Committed to your Miracle! It’s your responsibility. Inside you is a reason for why you are here…your Miracle…so Commit to it. Go for it!

The letter “L” stands for Love. You must Love what you do. You must Love the Miracle that you are focused on creating. If your Miracle is all about money…you will fail! Your Miracle cannot be based on money. Your Miracle must be based on what you can do to impact the world, which will produce everlasting results. You will produce true Miracles! Don’t let anyone else tell you what you must do for money. Love what you do and create your own Miracles.

The letter “E” stands for Energy. Your gonna need Energy to create your Miracle. There’s no such thing as it “falling in your lap”, “luck” or “winning the lotto” in a success mindset. It takes hard work! You need the Energy to take those daily action steps to create your Miracle. Again, it is your responsibility to maintain your Energy to create your Miracle. Miracle…It’s your responsibility.

As I say,

You must be absolutely clear about your goal and be relentless in your pursuit of Your “WHY!”

John Di Lemme

http://www.FindYourWhy.com

by Johanes Lim

May we never let the things we can’t have, or don’t have, or shouldn’t have, spoil our enjoyment of the things we do have and can have. As we value our happiness, let us not forget it, for one of the greatest lessons in life is learning to be happy without the things we cannot or should not have.
Richard Evans
Semoga kita tidak pernah mengijinkan hal yang tidak bisa kita miliki, atau tidak seharusnya memiliki, menghancurkan kegembiraan kita terhadap hal yang kita miliki atau yang bisa kita miliki. Karena kita menghargai kebahagiaan, janganlah sampai lupa bahwa satu dari pengajaran terbaik dalam hidup adalah belajar untuk menjadi bahagia tanpa sesuatu yang tidak bisa atau tidak seharusnya kita miliki
Richard Evans

Ada peribahasa yang berbunyi, “Neighbor’s grass looks greener”, atau rumput tetangga nampak lebih hijau dibandingkan rumput dihalaman kita!
Kalau kita perluas menjadi, istri tetangga lebih bahenol dan nampak lebih “yummy” dibandingkan istri kita; suami tetangga nampak lebih macho dan lebih hebat dibandingkan suami kita; dan seterusnya, sampai ke kucing tetangga nampak lebih merdu meongannya dibandingkan kucing kita!

Padahal, kalau kita flash-back (napak tilas) tentang bagaimana susahnya dulu ketika kita berjuang dan bersaing dengan banyak pria memperebutkan hati calon istri kita!? Coba ingat kembali apa yang Anda lakukan ketika masa PDKT (pendekatan) itu? Seperti kata lirik sebuah lagu, “Aku makan ingat kamu, mandi ingat kamu, tidur ingat kamu, dipiring ada kamu!?”
Coba ingat lagi, betapa berbunga-bunganya perasaan Anda ketika untuk pertama kalinya “si dia” menerima pernyataan cinta Anda? Betapa bahagianya hidup Anda sejak saat itu, sampai menganggap bahwa dunia ini hanya milik berdua? (yang lainnya indekost?) Lantas, setelah Anda memilikinya, menikahinya, sampai suatu hari, mengapa Anda merasa bahwa istri tetangga (istilah ini boleh diubah menjadi istri teman, atau bawahan, atau teman kantor, dll) nampak lebih menggairahkan dari istri sendiri? Mengapa Anda berubah setia? Mengapa Anda menodai kepercayaan pasangan Anda? Kemana perasaan cinta pertama yang menggebu-gebu itu?

Sebelum saya menjelaskannya, maka saya akan membiarkan Anda melangkah lebih jauh.
Ketika seorang pria berkata bahwa, “Saya meninggalkan istri saya, karena jatuh cinta terhadap perempuan lain!”, maka itu bukanlah riwayat baru, hanya pengulangan terhadap kisah lama, yang dianggap baru, ibarat hamster yang merasa sudah berlari kesana kemari diroda yang berputar, padahal tidak kemana mana; persis seperti orang yang mengobral kata cinta, akan mudah melupakan cinta, seperti orang haus yang diberi minum air garam, akan bertambah haus!
Dalam hitungan bulan, ketika Anda sudah bosan menikmati “cinta” Anda, maka perempuan bagaimana bahenolpun, ketika sudah sering Anda nikmati, akan terasa biasa saja; dan perasaan bosan mulai timbul, dan mulai melirik kanan kiri, sampai suatu hari orang seperti itu akan berkata, “Aha! Saya telah menemukan cinta sejati saya!”, dan mencampakkan perempuan yang sebelumnya Anda klaim sebagai “cinta sejati Anda!?”

Mengapakah kata “Berbahagia” menjadi istilah yang enak didengar, mempesona, dan membuat semua orang mengejar kebahagiaan agar menjadi miliknya; lebih tepatnya adalah, agar ia bisa hidup berbahagia!
Ada yang menganggap bahwa kebahagiaan itu jika ia telah memilki “anu” atau mencapai “inu”; namun ketika “anu” dan “inu” itu sudah tercapai, orang juga tidak merasa bahagia; dan menganggap bahwa kalau saya bisa menjadi “anu inu” maka saya pasti bahagia. Setelah berjuang kalang kabut, pontang panting, penuh pergumulan dan penderitaan serta pengorbanan, maka jadilah ia sebagai si “anu inu”, dan berharap bahwa ia sudah boleh menikmati hidup bahagia; ternyata tidak! Ia belum merasa bahagia!

Bahkan ia merasa sangat sedih ketika menyadari bahwa dalam upayanya mengejar kebahagiaan dengan target menjadi “anu inu”, ia telah kehilangan keharmonisan rumah tangga, istrinya depresi karena kesepian, anaknya menjadi berandalan karena merasa tidak diperdulikan, dan ia menjadi nampak lebih tua dari usia biologisnya, karena bekerja keras lupa santai.
Orang seperti itu menjadi kecewa, bingung, sedih, dan frustrasi, serta berteriak entah kepada siapa, “Mengapa? Mengapa? Mengapa begitu sukar menjadi orang yang berbahagia? Dengan banyak hal yang saya miliki, mengapakah saya tetap tidak bisa merasa bahagia?!”

Saya turut prihatin.
Saya turut beremphati.
Namun sepertinya ada yang salah dalam kasus seperti diatas, “MENGEJAR KEBAHAGIAAN”; dianggapnya kebahagiaan adalah seperti sesuatu yang berlari kencang?! Apakah kebahagiaan sejenis kuda, sehingga bisa berlari dan harus dikejar untuk mendapatkannya?
Kalau menurut saya, bahagia itu adalah SIKAP HATI. Bahagia bukanlah tujuan akhir, melainkan keadaan yang bisa dinikmati kapan saja, dan bisa berlangsung terus menerus.
Berbeda dengan kesenangan, yang seringkali berkonotasi mengeluarkan biaya; bahagia jauh lebih mudah untuk diperoleh dan dinikmati, karena gratis!

Kalau tahu esensinya, dan tahu caranya, menjadi bahagia itu bisa dilakukan kapan saja, dan oleh siapa saja, tanpa memperdulikan latar belakang seseorang, apakah kaya atau miskin, normal atau cacat, pria atau wanita, muda atau tua, seperti yang dianjurkan oleh Richard Evans:
Semoga kita tidak pernah mengijinkan hal yang tidak bisa kita miliki, atau tidak seharusnya memiliki, menghancurkan kegembiraan kita terhadap hal yang kita miliki atau yang bisa kita miliki. Karena kita menghargai kebahagiaan, janganlah sampai lupa bahwa satu dari pengajaran terbaik dalam hidup adalah belajar untuk menjadi bahagia tanpa sesuatu yang tidak bisa atau tidak seharusnya kita miliki

Sungguh saudaraku, kita menganggap untuk bisa berbahagia itu begitu sukar, perlu syarat ini dan itu, harus mempunyai ini dan itu; sesungguhnya untuk berbahagia itu mudah, cukup memiliki kemampuan untuk mensyukuri dan menikmati apa yang kita miliki. Anda punya uang Rp.20.000,- saja? Syukurilah, dan kelolalah agar bisa Anda nikmati dengan baik. Masih banyak orang yang tidak mempunyai uang Rp.20.000,- atau punya uang tapi tidak bisa menikmatinya; karena itu, Anda patut bersyukur memilikinya, dan bisa menikmatinya.
Jangan meremehkan apa yang Anda miliki, karena mengharapkan apa yang belum Anda miliki. Hargai apa yang sudah ada, karena itulah milik Anda yang sejati, pada saat ini.
Sebab jika Anda tidak melakukan seperti ini, melainkan merasa kurang, karena hanya memiliki Rp.20.000,-, dan berandai-andai bahwa Anda memiliki Rp.1 juta; maka Anda akan merasa malang, karena tidak memiliki uang Rp.1 juta, hanya Rp.20 ribu saja!
Kalau itu yang Anda lakukan, maka saya berani katakan bahwa Anda memang orang malang! Uang Rp.1 juta tidak didapat, malahan kehilangan makna dari uang Rp.20 ribu yang Anda miliki!?

Ada kisah yang bagus dan berselera humor tinggi, yang membahas tentang menikmati hidup:
Ada seorang pengusaha sukses kaya yang menghampiri seseorang yang sedang asyik memancing ikan didanau. Pengusaha itu melihat dan menilai bahwa sipemancing terlihat kumuh dan miskin, maka ia memulai percakapan, “Apakah memancing ikan adalah pekerjaanmu?”, dan sipemancing menjawab, “Bukan pak, saya kerja serabutan. Ini cuma hobby saja, sambil mencari tambahan lauk untuk makan malam”; sang pengusaha bertanya, “Lantas, kenapa Anda tidak bekerja lebih keras agar mendapat lauk tanpa harus memancing?”, dan sipemancing bertanya, “Lho, kerja keras untuk apa pak?”, dan sipengusaha menjawab, “Ya supaya Anda banyak uang, kaya raya!”, dan sipemancing kembali bertanya, “Lantas, kalau sudah banyak uang kaya raya, untuk apa pak?”, dan si pengusaha menjawab, “Supaya Anda bisa santai, punya banyak waktu untuk menikmati hidup dan hobby Anda!”, dan sipemancing tertawa, “Lha, kalau hanya untuk punya banyak waktu menikmati hobby, untuk apa harus bekerja keras segala pak? Sekarang saja saya sudah santai menikmati hobby kok!?”.
Si pengusaha mengangguk-anggukan kepala sambil menggaruk kepalanya yang tidak gatal, “Jadi, yang keliru itu siapa atau apa yaa?? Saya yang sudah mempunyai banyak harta dan kehormatan, namun tidak punya waktu untuk menikmatinya!?”

Bukan maksud Johanes Lim mengajarkan Anda cara bermalas ria, atau menjadi orang yang pasif dan enggan berjuang, BUKAN!
Saya hanya ingin menekankan bahwa KEBAHAGIAAN BUKANLAH TUJUAN AKHIR, MELAINKAN PROSES YANG BISA DINIKMATI DARI AWAL SAMPAI AKHIR, DARI SEKARANG SAMPAI NANTI!
Kalau menganggap kebahagiaan adalah target akhir, maka sepanjang perjalanan hidup Anda isinya hanyalah perjuangan dan pergumulan saja! bagaimana jika sebelum sampai garis finish, sebelum Anda sempat menikmati hidup, Anda sudah dipanggil TUHAN? Mati penasaran, bukan?
Kalau Anda mengikuti saran saya, maka sepanjang perjalanan dan perjuangan hidup, Anda tetap bisa menikmati hidup, merasakan kebahagiaan dari apa yang sudah Anda miliki, dan bukan dari apa yang belum Anda miliki.
Andaikan kelak Anda sukses mencapai garis finish, ya tambah bersyukur, double happiness: kebahagiaan dan kebanggaan!
Andaikan keburu dipanggil TUHAN, ya sudah, Anda tidak penasaran, karena sudah menikmati hidup, sejak mulai start!

You have the ability to create your own mind-set. Whether your attitude is positive or negative, is up to you. The ability to change your environment, circle of friends, and attitude, is within your control.

Just like a computer absorbs raw data, so does your mind. Within your mind a culture, within itself, has grown. Many people feel like they have no control of their own mind, because this culture has become negative. The negativity is a result of past experiences, being in a negative environment, or being under the influence of unconstructive ideas.

Similar to a computer virus, you have to identify it quickly, to avoid letting it spread within your mind. You can also pass this virus of negative thinking to people around you. As a result you are spreading negative energy around, like “weeds in a field.”

Much like a farmer, you cultivate too. The energy in your mind is the crop, and it is up to you, whether it is weeds or wheat. If you have a farm and let a field take care of itself; you will be lucky to have any kind of a crop, from it.
This is the same with the energy within your mind.

You have to option to pick quality seeds: Information, in the form of books, eBooks, DVD’s, CD’s, lectures, courses, workshops, and seminars. This is learning, for the sake of self-improvement, and it results in a positive mind-set

However, your work is not finished, because you must still reinforce the lessons, and keep everything in a focused order. This might be compared to fertilizing, watering, and “weeding the mind.” You have to work at it continually or the weeds will grow back. This, my friend, is meditation, and one of the reasons why we meditate, in the first place.

Meditation is controlled focus on an object, thought, or task without judgment.
This process makes it possible to look at all situations objectively. You can find solutions, turn negative situations into positive learning experiences, and create your own positive mindset. As a result of this you will make new friends, reach goals, handle problems easily, and develop an indomitable spirit.

Remember the last time you made an accomplishment. That feeling, and that ability, are within all of us. It is a formula for success, but you have to take action. Action is something that the vast majority of people will never take.
Learn to separate yourself from “the pack,” through education, meditation, and action.

Photographs are clearer when they are in focus. When they are out of focus, they are blurry, indistinct. How many times have you been disappointed by the result when the focus was off? Faces or objects are blurred, maybe even unrecognizable. Toss that one away a poor quality picture that does not meet the ideal you had in mind when you took it. Scratch it up to experience. Maybe blame it on the camera.

The quality of the reality pictures that show up in your life are also largely due to proper focus.

In the first place, the ideal must be clearly held in mind. The result you desire to out-picture or manifest in your life must first be clearly and distinctly created in your imagination. It must be ‘in focus’; that is, the components must be defined, clearly seen, envisioned.

In the second place, as you go about the ‘doing’ necessary to effectuate the picture, you must remain focused on your goal and not allow yourself to get distracted by what is going on around you.

Simple really, but it always amazes me how unfocused people are. Ask someone to describe their heart’s desire and 90% of the time, you cannot get a clear description from them. It is blurry and indistinct. Generalities but no specifics. Or a description of the picture by what’s not in it.

“I want health, wealth and happiness”

“So what does health mean to you?”

“Well, you know, to not be sick.”

“So what does wealth mean to you?”

“Well, you know, to not be lacking.”

“So what does happiness mean to you?”

“To not be sad, dissatisfied.”

“I want peace.”

“What’s that?”

“Well, you know no more war.”

Not this, not that; defining the picture, the ideal by what is not in it, instead of what is in it. The trouble with focusing on ‘no more war’ is that you are still focusing on war. The trouble with focusing on not being unwell is that you are still focusing on un-wellness, not wellness. The focus is on lack and limitation and not on abundance and potentiality.

As Mark Twain once said, “I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.”

All most people seem to know is what they do NOT want. Focus your attentions and intentions on those ideals that you want, desire, long for, lust after. Make that focus clear and distinct.

You get the picture you have focused on. “Prosperity is the abundance of all things held ideal in mind and dear in heart.” How clear and exact are your ideals? How much desire, longing, passion is attached to them? How focused is the image in your mind? How focused is your desire to have that ideal be out-pictured in your life?

The complex thing about life is that it is wonderfully full of distractions. Here you are, focused on some purpose or goal and then this incredibly intrusive thing occurs.

Perhaps, you are in medical school, totally focused on becoming a doctor. Then this great guy shows up, beds you and before you know it, you are at home practicing motherhood instead of medicine and taking your child to the pediatrician you could have been had you not allowed yourself to be distracted, to lose focus.

Or perhaps, you are busy going about the business of creating a business and some seemingly major obstacle presents itself, so you change your mind, change your plan, change your focus to the next great business idea and the next one after that.

Life is full of distractions making it easy to lose focus. Winners stay focused. Sometimes they are so focused that you cannot even get their attention.

Funny how that is.

How does Serena win Wimbledon? Focus.

How does Lance win the Tour de France? Focus.

How does Tiger win so many tournaments? Focus.

Do you want to win the game of life? Get focused. Stay focused.

Seekor belalang telah lama terkurung dalam sebuah kotak. Suatu hari ia berhasil keluar dari kotak yang mengurungnya tersebut. Dengan gembira ia melompat-lompat menikmati kebebasannya. Di perjalanan ia bertemu dengan seekor belalang lain. Namun dia keheranan mengapa belalang itu bisa melompat lebih tinggi dan lebih jauh darinya.

Dengan penasaran ia menghampiri belalang itu dan bertanya, “Mengapa kamu bisa melompat lebih tinggi dan lebih jauh? Padahal kita tidak jauh berbeda.”

Belalang itu pun menjawab dengan pertanyaan, “Di manakah kamu selama ini tinggal? Karena semua belalang yang hidup di alam bebas pasti bisa melakukan seperti yang aku lakukan.” Saat itu si belalang baru tersadar bahwa selama ini kotak itulah yang membuat lompatannya tidak sejauh dan setinggi belalang lain yang hidup di alam bebas.

Terkadang kita sebagai manusia tanpa sadar pernah juga mengalami hal yang sama dengan belalang. Lingkungan yang buruk, hinaan, trauma masa lalu, kegagalan yang beruntun, perkataan teman atau pendapat tetangga, seolah membuat kita terkurung dalam kotak semu yang membatasi semua kelebihan kita. Lebih sering kita mempercayai mentah-mentah apapun yang mereka voniskan kepada kita tanpa pernah berpikir benarkah diri kita separah itu. Bahkan lebih buruk lagi, kita lebih memilih untuk mempercayai mereka daripada mempercayai diri sendiri.

Tidakkah Anda pernah mempertanyakan kepada nurani bahwa Anda bisa ‘melompat lebih tinggi dan lebih jauh kalau Anda mau menyingkirkan ‘kotak’ itu? Tidakkah Anda ingin membebaskan diri agar Anda bisa mencapai sesuatu yang selama ini Anda anggap di luar batas kemampuan Anda?

Beruntung sebagai manusia kita dibekali Tuhan kemampuan untuk berjuang, tidak hanya menyerah begitu saja pada apa yang kita alami. Karena itu teman, teruslah berusaha mencapai apapun yang ingin Anda capai. Memang sakit, memang lelah, tapi bila Anda sudah sampai di puncak, semua pengorbanan itu pasti akan terbayar.

Kehidupan Anda akan lebih baik kalau Anda hidup bukan dengan cara hidup seperti yang orang lain pilihkan untuk Anda.

No regret is a motto we would all be well served by adopting. Regret is one of the biggest wastes of energy, and is extremely disempowering. To regret an action, event, or inaction is wishing to recreate history. It is impossible to change the past. The only thing that we can change is our perception of the past, and what we learn from our experiences.

Having regret means being unable to accept the basic fact that we did the best we could in any given situation. To be able to move forward with our lives, we need to let go, and stop wishing for a ‘better past,’ and learn what it means to live with no regret.

No regret means accepting that you made a choice. Either it was the choice that felt right to you at the time, or you were not ready, willing, or able to make the choice that did feel right but took more courage than you could muster.

If you followed your heart, then whatever the outcome, you acted bravely, and deserve to feel pride not regret. Try to understand and accept that it is impossible to foresee every potential outcome in any scenario. It is also impossible to know what results the alternative choice may have brought. You trusted your intuition, and even though you may not like the results that this action brought, undoubtedly you can learn and grow from the situation.

You have also taken positive action in creating your own path, and this is a wonderful thing. Every time you make a choice that truly feels right to you, you are developing your trust in yourself. Don’t let that trust be diminished because the outcome is not what you might have hoped. Bear in mind that it is also beyond our human abilities to predict what positive effects a seemingly negative turn of events can have on our future.

I love the Taoist parable of the farmer who responds to every seeming disaster or triumph with, ‘Good news? Maybe. Bad news? Maybe. Who knows’? Have you heard stories of disaster being averted by a last minute change of plans? If your intuition or the universe is telling you something, listen! Who knows, but the fact that your alarm fails to go off one morning may in fact prevent a bigger misfortune from befalling you. Rather than blaming yourself, accept that maybe it is a ‘bad’ thing, or maybe it is not. It is just a thing that happened, and whether through mechanical failure, or human error, it did happen. No amount of wishing will make it un-happen.

If you feel regret because you didn’t take a stand, then try to forgive yourself, and understand that you did the best you could at that time. Rather than beating yourself up about not being more proactive, assertive, or whatever, accept that you didn’t act the way that would have made you feel powerful. Decide that you would like to try and become more empowered in your future choices. You realize that taking the ‘easy’ way out didn’t result in feeling good about yourself, so work on developing the strength and courage to make tougher, but more uplifting decisions in the future.

When you actually do manage to take the path your soul is urging you to take, make sure you validate your actions. Tell yourself that you are strong and courageous, and that whatever the outcome of your actions may be, you have taken a bold and positive step. Even if things don’t work out exactly as you envisaged, and they rarely do, decide that you will focus on the fact that you took a stand.

By choosing to live life with no regret, we can free ourselves from the pain of second-guessing our past actions. Not only will regret fail to change anything about the past, but it will also prevent you from living fully in the present. By remaining trapped by ‘what if,’ and ‘if only,’ you are not able to enjoy every new moment that you experience. You are also unlikely to make clear and conscious decisions that will create the present and future you want, because your mind is so clouded with worrying about what you perceive is wrong with the past.

If we develop a philosophy of no regret, we can focus on living our present lives in a positive and proactive way. The more courage and clarity we bring to our lives and choices, the less and less likely it will be that we create situations that might prompt feelings of regret in the future.

Aim to live courageously, follow your heart, and trust your intuition. Also accept that there is no right or wrong choice in most cases. To live with no regret becomes the only way to live.

A positive mental attitude is one of the most critical links we have between our success and happiness. In fact it would be fair to say that without a positive attitude it would be difficult to accomplish anything that can be considered worthwhile. Having the ability to maintain positive thoughts seems to make everything you do a lot easier and more enjoyable. There obviously exists a correlation between maintaining a positive attitude and achieving success and happiness in life.

Here are 5 undeniable benefits you experience from the power of positive thinking.

1. Boosts Feeling of Well Being

Having a positive attitude quite naturally results in boosting your spirits since in your mind everything is ‘good’ which promotes an upbeat mood. Even when something occurs of a more negative nature your current disposition helps you to quickly overcome it.

2. Boosts Motivation

When you are feeling good you are more likely to live your life and seek new experiences than if you were depressed. Positive thoughts boost the spirits and instill more of a ‘can do’ attitude giving you more motivation or drive to follow through on your efforts.

3. Increases Productivity

With an increase in motivation you obviously will be more productive in any tasks you may undertake. In addition to this it will also make any efforts you do exert seem much easier which in turn tends to keep you at the task longer.

4. Leads to Accomplishments

Building on the increase in productivity a positive mindset can therefore help you to accomplish a lot more. With an increase in motivation which leads to more productivity you are much better able to stay focused for longer. The net result will be you simply get more done.

5. Attracts Others

Nobody wants to be around a negative person while on the other hand optimistic people generally attract others. Positive people are more pleasant and fun to be around and are also a great source of encouragement. With all that said who would not want to be around someone with a positive attitude.

A positive mental attitude is one of the greatest assets you can possess. In life or in business your positive thoughts heavily influence the ease with which you are able to achieve success or happiness. The 5 benefits we spoke of above that anyone can experience from utilizing the power of positive thinking are a compelling testimony to maintaining an upbeat mindset. When you are able to reduce your own stress while becoming more productive and attractive to others it seems there are no downsides to having a positive attitude. Try one on for size today to see what it can do for you!

By Christina Sponias

Fist of all you have to find the right person for you. This is not a simple matter, since when you are in love you tend to believe that the person you desire is your soul mate, while this can be only a false impression.

You have to be able to identify your soul mate by verifying if the characteristics of their personality fit with yours, penetrating in their psyche.

But how can you learn everything about the person you love?

This is possible, and the information you’ll have is objective and true. You can learn all the secrets about your partner’s personality and life by learning how to interpret the dreams you’ll have about them.

The unconscious mind that produces your dreams will show you in dream messages everything about the so-important person for you, and help you verify if they are your real soul mate, and if they will really help you lead a happy life.

Your relationship will be wonderful because you’ll find your true soul mate, and thus, never face the most common problems that prevail in all relationships.

The unconscious mind knows what happens inside everyone’s psychical world and will show you everything in dream images, besides showing you many aspects of the special person’s daily life, and many things concerning the people that are around them.

Don’t worry that dream interpretation is something difficult and not concrete, because my dynamic method of dream translation, derived from the method of dream interpretation discovered by Carl Jung, is very clear and simple. Besides that, dreams about the person you love are very easy to understand. The unconscious mind knows how decisive they are for your life, and how dangerous the love you feel could be for your mental health, and this is why the dreams concerning your relationship are very simple.

Your dreams will be a useful guide that will help you understand how to behave in each situation, showing you many things about the human behavior that you ignore. The psychology lessons of the unconscious mind will transform your personality and enlighten you very much!

You’ll be compensated for caring about psychology and dream interpretation by leading a very happy life with your soul mate, and having a wonderful relationship with them that will remain alive forever.

A strong relationship, based on real love and true compatibility, that will be threatened neither by time, nor by all the attractive temptations of our social life.

A relationship that will give you happiness, excitement and satisfaction everyday, and all the time!

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.
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